Hey all - here are my notes from last week's session on Transference. Enjoy! (and feel free to let me know if there are edits)
May 24 - supervision session with happy monkeys (Notes by Rachel)
Tier 1 work
Client knows his body is processing. He has a sense of the world and event memory.
Tier 2 work
• He doesn’t have sense of anything outside of the world created by medicine. Completely immersive.
• Can be dark landscape that gets created.
• Tends to arise organically. Can’t really target it.
• Occurs when you are ready to shift your core sense of identity and world around you.
• Tier 2 is FABRIC OF REALITY.
• Go watch SHUTTER ISLAND and you’ll understand tier 2!
Wave and corrective aspects:
When you become attuned as the savior parent that the client never had, you’re stepping into a transferential role with them - you’re interjecting that into an event memory that didn’t have savior in it. That is the corrective aspect.
The Wave aspect is Selective Inhibition - mental physical emotional - but the two big pathways to grab event memory are physical and transference.
Maintain sustained eye contact, and you’re not just asking client about their experience but also asking them how they feel about you.
As soon as ask question you’re knocking on door for relational memories… e.g “you feel distant.. feel like you don’t care… “
Staying neutral vs entering into the role:
There’s going to be different articulations of the transferential relationship they are expressing onto you.
One way: Playing Neutral
First just play it with a straight face. You don’t have to play into it but also don’t deny it.
e.g. someone says you seem bored… “OK, really notice what it feels like to you when I’m bored and don’t care.” That’s one way - being relatively neutral
Second way: Hold the Negative Role - while maintaining SI
The other thing you can do, if you are confident you can hold the negative role, is when someone hands you the role, you can dream into the script, the language, the motto of that role.
E.g client who had early molestation, she kept in him in savior role. Then she started to project perp onto her spouse. So the SI probe I gave was “I’m going to touch you… “ (That’s a perp probe) and it signals to her system that he’s the perp. And once system identifies you as that role (they have to say in SI for this) then they will have reactions and responses to defensive IARS that come up in response to that role.
E.g. they don’t have that projection then you hav a semantic conversation about it (not about what it means) invite role, have them stay in contact with you, and the body turns on the waves…
Start with positive role for a period before moving into negative roles:
There’s the beginning phase where you are in positive role - stay there for a while. Let them keep you in one of these positive roles for a time before flipping out.
There’s some ritualistic cue that give signal to client that even though they will feel this way outside this exercise it’s an Identifying marker that we’re going into this.
Ideally if they complete the wave they will see you in more neutral way. If not they may stew on you being in this role.
It is an act of generosity to allow yourself to be seen in this way by a client. It’s not easy work.
It’s one thing when their secondary consciousness is enough on board, but another when it’s not.
It’s easier if it’s all held in the SI container:
Let’s say someone Is ready to work with observer parent and you’re late to the session, their system will go to town with it because there’s something real in the present moment reality that you’re late.